In my book, there are two kinds of traveling. There’s traveling alone and traveling with the family. Although they are completely different forms of travel, they do share certain common principles. The first, made famous by the late great Douglas Adams, is “Don’t Panic.”
The second principle I read once long ago in a guidebook to Italy. It is simply “Trust in Serendipity.” That is, as you travel around the world, if you have the right attitude, wonderful things will happen to you. You’ll run into an unexpected parade or open air concert. You’ll find that idyllic secluded cove for an afternoon in the sun. I think of this as travel karma.
Some people have ridiculous amounts of travel karma. My wife, for instance, which is why I hate traveling without her. We’ve had airline desk agents chase her across airports to give her a free upgrade to first class. Hotel desk clerks regularly put her in the nicest rooms. Much of this can be attributed to her wonderful attitude and beautiful smile that will brighten anyone’s day.
But it’s more than that. How do you explain us going to St. Peter’s and running into a practically empty cathedral with the Pope giving an unannounced mass for the College of Cardinals. She is an extreme case, but I firmly believe we all have some travel karma. So remember, don’t panic and trust in serendipity.
When I travel with the family, I use the internet to schedule everything for the entire trip. Plane flights, apartments or hotel rooms, tours, museum tickets, the works, and it all tends to be first class with such amenities as air conditioning and washing machines. The fewer hassles the better when you have three kids around. But sharing the world with the kids is one of the greatest pleasures of our life.
When I observe some of our kid's peers, I believe their whole world is basically their bedroom and their parochial view of their town. They live in a culture that constantly bombards them through all forms of media with the message that they are smarter than the adults in their lives and they know everything that needs knowing. The result is that incredible bundle of drama and angst that is the average American teenager. The extreme cases of violence and suicide seem to result from an attitude of “If this is it, why bother?”
By traveling to different countries and different cultures, kids get to see the myriad possibilities in the world. The very fact that there is a great big different and fascinating world out there to explore adds interest, fascination, purpose, and hope to their lives. Some people consider my family’s wanderlust a curse, but I see it as a blessing.
Travel also gives children an idea of all there is left to do in the world. Too many kids have them old Ecclesiastes blues. That everything to be done has been done, that there are no new discoveries to be made, and that there is nothing new under the sun.
Just make two visits to the same museum or historical site separated by a year or two. You hear all the theories that have been disproved and new theories that have replaced them. The discoveries that sparked this upheaval and the people that made them. Once kids realize that, and realize that we are just getting started in fields such as computers, biomedicine, and nanotechnology, they realize they can do things to change the world, to make a difference, to have an important purpose for their lives.
My, that was a digression, wasn’t it. My sister says I overanalyze things. She would probably tell you I take the kids because we have a lot of fun traveling and having adventures together. She’s probably right.
Sometimes, like now, I travel without the children. Now that is a completely different kind of travel. When I travel alone, I am much more likely to plan my itinerary as opportunity presents. At present, I am living in a student flat with a couple roommates. My room has a basic cot, a care-bear air balloon ceiling light with a fifteen watt bulb, and a table light I scrounged that requires a toothpick jammed into the switch to keep it on. I love it.
Mind you, I am not near so adventurous as my nephew who has backpacked the world from Laos and North Vietnam to Tunisia and Europe. Or for that matter, my eldest son who has backpacked Europe on the youth hostel route. At least I have my own room, such as it is, and a key that sometimes works in the door.
One of my roommates, a Swede no less, was concerned that I hadn’t made plans for where I am going at the end of the week. I can’t believe such a young kid would have that attitude about travel. I know my children don't.
Of course, I miss the family when I travel alone. At least half the fun of traveling is having someone to share it with. But there are some advantages to being on your own.
For one, I get to eat fish, lots of fish. In fact, last night I had my first red meat in three weeks of Spain. It was ox and very good. Mind you, I can eat fish when I’m with my wife, just so long as I have another bedroom to sleep in.
I can also wear my tourist hat without fear of ridicule. My children don’t like my tourist hat ( a well-worn Tilley). They don’t think it looks cool. Hey, I’m fifty, not much makes me look cool. I’m at that age where comfort is king. Besides, the other day when I was on the open upper deck of a bus turistica stuck in a traffic jam, I thought I looked considerably cooler than all the people holding tourist maps over their heads, trying to block the sun.
That’s another thing. My theory of seeing a new city involves hitting the tourist bus for the morning tour the first morning I’m there. This gives a great orientation, helps me get my bearings, and helps me decide what I want to see. The commentary on these buses also often give invaluable advice on survival in that city. My wife doesn’t like the tourist bus. This could be because she has to share a seat with me, and I am a rather large person, or because she likes to relax when she first gets off a plane. All good reasons mind you, but I like being able to take the bus without dispute.
Which brings us to another sticky point. As you may have caught on from my pictures, I am a maniac about seeing things. I’ll march around for hours up and down whatever hills are in my way. Taking kids on my kind of walkabout quickly becomes an unpleasant forced march, which is why I always try to get centrally located apartments that we can quickly make it back to when tired. I, on the other hand, love to march around for hours exploring a new town.
This does present a problem with shoes. I have size 15 ½ feet, which translates to a European size 50. They have a number to describe it, but as near as I have been able to tell, nowhere in Europe, certainly not in Spain, makes shoes this size. My problem is if I take an extra pair of shoes, it takes half my luggage space. So I brought one new pair of shoes just broken in. They didn’t even survive the first week in Barcelona, since then I have been using copious amounts of superglue to hold them together.
So there is traveling and there is traveling. I miss the family as I explore Spain but am enjoying seeing it my way.